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Sleep, or a lack thereof

So it’s been over two weeks since Samuel switched to sleeping in a bed.  The first two nights went really well.  Unfortunately, things haven’t really continued that way (at night; during the day has been ok, although we’re still staying with him until he’s asleep).  On the Thursday he started getting up shortly after getting put to bed in the evening, and that has continued most nights since.  We decided to let him get up once and then put hi back to bed and stay with him until he is (mostly) asleep.  That works, but it takes 30 to 90 minutes, so we unfortunately lose a good part of the evening (and dinner is quite delayed).  I tried just repeatedly putting him back to bed a couple of times, but after putting him back 20 or 30 times he was just getting more upset and therefore awake.  We might change this system soon, since nothing really seems to be improving.

He sometimes wakes during the night, but when put back to bed goes back to sleep pretty quickly.  I think this will stop on its own.

The mornings aren’t great, either.  Sam wakes up between 5am and 6:15am pretty much every morning.  We used to get up around 7:15am.  It’s possible that he was waking up around that time before and just staying quiet in the cot, but I don’t think he would have been quiet for two hours.  Maybe he woke up and went back to sleep, but he’s not willing to do that now.  So this means that Olyvia and I are getting up some time between 5 and 7 these days.  I still work until the same time at night, so this means some pretty short nights.  We’re still trying to figure out what we can do about this.

Now, I understand that many people have things much worse than this.  Until now, Samuel has always slept pretty well, and we have had over a year of 12 hour (7pm to 7am) sleep, with sometimes 3 hour naps during the day.  We’re grateful for that, and just hope that we can get back to something close to that.


Bedtime

Sam's last night in his cotSamuel changed to sleeping in a bed yesterday.  He had his last night in the cot on Monday night, and attempted to have a nap in the cot on Tuesday afternoon (turned out that there wasn’t any sleep).  After that, we took the side rails off the cot, and swapped the foot for the shorter end.  It’s not quite a ‘real’ bed, but it looks more-or-less like one, and we didn’t feel that buying a new bed for him made sense at this time (and anything bigger wouldn’t fit well in the room).

It was just me & Samuel home for the first try (Olyvia was at the gym).  He’d seen the bed during the day (and found that it’s a good platform to jump off, and that he can now get to both sets of windows in his room), and didn’t seem concerned at all about the change.  He said goodbye as normal, and apart from one little cry (which sometimes happens anyway) all was well.

Sam sleeping on the floorI always check in on him just before I go to bed (11:30 or so) – normally turning him around, tucking him in, and so on.  When I did this, I found that he’d fallen to the floor at some point, but hadn’t made (nearly) any noise doing so (or we would have heard him), and hadn’t woken up as a result.  I’m sure this won’t be the last time!

I put him back in the bed (he didn’t wake up at all), and the rest of the night passed without incident.  This morning he woke up around 7am as normal, and after talking for a little while he opened his door and came and found me (Olyvia was out again, this time picking up the Kelly kids).  He was quite happy and the morning started off as well as ever.

I knew that the real challenge would be his nap, since the only time he has trouble going to sleep at night is when he’s sick, but during the day he’s not always convinced that he needs a nap.  I put him to bed around the normal time (he was clearly tired), but he wasn’t happy about it.  A minute or two after leaving the room, he came out, and so I put him back, explaining that he had to stay there.  We repeated this with varying gaps between him appearing maybe a dozen times.

Sam sleeping in bed

He was getting a little upset, so I decided that the tough stance could wait a while.  I put him in bed, and read him a story (he happily stayed in the bed for the story).  That mostly calmed him down, but I stayed next to the bed for a while until he was basically asleep anyway.  Leaving the room, the squeaky door (I must remember to oil it!) woke him up, so we repeated this.  Next time went fine, and he drifted off to sleep pretty quickly.

He woke up a bit over an hour later (a short sleep for him, but not completely unusual).  I heard a thump (I work in the room next door) and went him to find him on the floor.  I’m pretty sure he was getting up and slipped rather than falling out while asleep – he was immediately happy and awake.

All went well again tonight, so hopefully the transition continues smoothly!


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